How can I help my girlfriend to stress free?
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Craig L asked:
My girlfriend is not former smoker, sometimes the things/stuffs make her stress and she start to smoke to calm her stress down. I didnt want her to smoke, she wont stop smoking when stress came on to her. Is there a way to calm her stress down instead of cigerettes? Pls help me. Thanks.
October 18th, 2008 at 3:07 pm
Ice cream is my favorite de-stresser
October 19th, 2008 at 10:27 am
Go for lots of walks, and make her a cup of chammomile tea.
Less sugar, less coffee. Good nutrition, calcium. Plenty of Omega 3’s. There are many good books written - but I would find a good one written by an MD who also knows some natural remedies, and I would give her the book to read. Be kind to her, maybe watch some funny movies - laughing is the best medicine. She also could maybe use a doctors appt., or have someone to talk to whose opinion matters to her. Good luck, she is lucky to have someone to care about her like you do! I wouldn’t nag her about the smoking, she probably feels bad enough about it as it is, and that would just add to the stress. I used to get upset with my husband when he would start smoking after quitting (more times than I can count). Finally he really did quit at the age of 51, for good. And it was nothing to do with me. I might as well have not been so disappointed in him all those times he couldn’t quit, because in the end he did quit. We just don’t have a crystal ball to see the future in, and sometimes good things do happen. Also, what is causing the stress? In my own case, it was a combination of starting menopause, an inherited nervous condition, and some personal problems (mostly always trying to be super efficient on the job with great difficulty!). Medication helped me a lot, but not everyone needs that, so it is good to try other remedies first.
October 22nd, 2008 at 12:51 pm
Cigarettes do not calm us, but nicotine does give the brain a “rush” temporarily.
Perhaps her stress is an excuse to smoke?
You can’t force someone to stop a bad habit. They have to want to.
Stress isn’t always a bad thing in our lives.. it helps us to learn some coping skills and how to solve problems. It’s not fun, but it’s part of life
So, take care of YOU, and let other adults handle their own stress.. it works better that way. You are not responsible to “fix” your girlfriend’s stress.
October 25th, 2008 at 5:53 am
this medication raises mood while minimizing tobacco urges
October 25th, 2008 at 12:44 pm
It’s not your job.. But you can only be there for her.. Cigarettes only relieve stress because of the deep breaths she’s taking…Cigarettes are stimulant’s so the nicotine doesn’t calm you, it’s the deep breathing she does…Get some info on how to breathe properly, and kindly give it to her..Don’t force it on her, just be nice, kind, and loving and say positive things to her…She also needs to learn some things on how to deal with stress in a positive way.. I’ve learn to say who gives a you know what when stress hits and live fully in the moment..Life is full of trials, but it’s how you view them that matters..
October 28th, 2008 at 10:44 pm
tell her eat the right food, sleep a lot and pray